Many people are acutely aware of what their partner is doing that is causing relationship problems, but completely unaware of what they are doing. For example, you might be very aware of your partner’s resistance or withdrawal, but totally unaware of your own judgmental behavior. You might be very aware of your partner’s anger, but completely unaware of your own compliance. You might be very aware of your partner’s addictive behavior, but very unaware of your own enabling. As long as your eyes are on your partner instead of on yourself, you will continue to believe that if only your partner changed, everything would be okay.

trUSt.. i think ur smart enough to noe why there's a US in trust.. cos a relationship takes two... not one.. when there is trust in a relationship, it builds a barrier and a sense of security.. a relationship w/o trust is a failed relationship. and from trust comes honesty.. ur partner or even U may not noe wad ur doing and this may end up really badly.. so encouraging honesty is most important. we may get lost in our arguement and start saying things we do not mean to say and all the insecurity comes out. And insecurity comes from lack of an honest and trusting relationship. and if u dun tell ur partner how u feel, u would end up suffering and this would lead to a bad break up. ur partner would not noe wad jus happened and u two may end up not even being frens.. u cant expect him/her to noe AUTO right? The longer you hold it in, the more difficult if will become to correct the situation.

Communication.. talking frequently and spending time together is equally important as anything. if u dun even miss each other then sth is wrong. talking and going out often srengthens the relationship and build a bond. spending time wif each other allows the other person a sense of security and make him/her feel loved. if ur partner tells u ur clingy.. take it into heart and reflect if u really haf been expressing urself in the wrong way or try to b wif him/her too much.. and maybe ur partner thinks ur suspecting him or dun trust him dats y u seem so sticky to him. and if ur thots and intentions differ, clarify it wif ur other half.. sth maybe wrong or maybe he's having a stressful time and needs some breathing space. respect his views and dun try to argue.. leave him alone for a few days or sth before talking to him again. being to rash or hasty would affect ur relationship a great deal so control ur emotions and let him cool down but also let him noe wdv it is, ur open and lending him a helping hand.. and dat he can trust u and he can share all his troubles wif u as well. but if he doesnt wan to do so, dun persist. =)